When I was in Asheville studying pregnancy yoga, my teacher taught us goddess pose with soft hands. She had us take the pose from a traditionally very rigid structure with fingers together, hands pointed straight up to a softer W shape for our arms and fingers apart.
It amazed me how this little gentleness changed my entire experience of goddess pose. Instead of this warrior, strength kind of energy, there was a grounded, calm energy.
I have been trying to have that energy in all my poses now. Just softening my hands, relaxing my focus from strength and rigidity to grounding.